"I’m writing in drag."

[my_daroga]

I love this October '05 interview with Joss Whedon, as just reported on Whedonesque. Especially this:

I’m super-gay, something my wife has come to accept and even enjoy.

[Wow, it's like me talking up there!]

and

But it is difficult, and these are roles that are constantly redefining themselves and re-entrenching. And you do come to a realisation, as you get older, that men and women actually do have not just cultural but biological differences, and that some of those clichés about how different they are, are actually true. And while I spend my entire career trying to subvert our notions of masculinity and femininity, I also have to have some grounding in the fact that some of them are based in reality — but some of them are also based in sociology, and those are the ones that have to be done away with, because they are nonsense.

I know we can never know what people are really like from media coverage, but am I wrong to find him adorable? The fact that he'd say the first bit aloud is just so heartening. I'm not alone--the gay heterosexual is a fact. Not my imagination.

Comments

[stefanie-bean.livejournal.com]

I wonder why he says "the ones [based on sociology] have to be done away with, because they're nonsense." Sociology itself comes out of sociobiology, and he admits the reality of at least some biological differences.

[ghostwritten2.livejournal.com]

I love Joss.

He struck me as geeky rather than gay (man, that adjective has had more meanings...) in the few interviews I've seen. Now I'm curious about exactly which gender-role-ish things he thinks are valid and which he thinks are nonsense!

[tkp.livejournal.com]

I want to marry Joss Whedon.

Anyway, thanks for the link, and I loved this interview. What you quoted is particularly interesting to me because I have a lot of trouble with it. Back in the day (pre-teen days, that is) I was the sort of feminist (is this even feminist? I'm not sure; it's probably just stupid) who liked to argue women weren't any different than men, not even biologically, except for the physical fact of the penis and reproductive organs. But since I've come to realize that those biological differences do make us psychologically different too, but the trouble I have with it is as far as a lot of those "cliches" go, I tend to be "masculine" (I can't mult-task; I can't ask for help; I don't cry, etc.) I hate that; it's made me feel like less of a woman in times past.

But I do think both gender and sexuality are a continuum, the way Whedon says in the interview. Sure, male is male and female is female, but there is the point where we meet, and isn't that so fascinating? And once I sort of got that, I felt a lot better about my sexuality, too. There's gay and straight and bi, but all sorts of things in between. I can be het and still find women hot. I can be het and even want to sleep with a woman. And maybe that makes me bi--but not being quite sure and not quite having a concrete definition of what I am in that sense no longer really bothers me any more.
/random confessions!

[femmenerd.livejournal.com]

I heart him too.